30 Days of Truth: Day 21

YOUR BEST FRIEND IS IN A CAR ACCIDENT RIGHT AFTER YOU TWO FIGHT.  WHAT DO YOU DO?

Ha well this question is a hoot because I don't generally fight with my best friends.  I don't fight with my friends in general.  I usually save my fights for family.  I know, giving the least to those who matter most, you don't have to tell me.

Okay, well, let's suppose my best friend IS in a wreck after we have a fight.  I would feel so guilty. Oh so very guilty.  And I would cry a lot.  And I would seriously be right there, at the scene, hospital, anywhere.  I'm kind of a baby like that.  

This question kinda sucks because I really don't want to think about anyone I love getting hurt.  Know that I would be very sad and apologetic and  be there to do anything for them.

But enough of this sad nonsense!  It's the holiday season!  Allow me now to distract you with this instead...

Now SHE need to be my best friend.

30 Days of Truth: Day 20

YOUR VIEW ON DRUGS AND ALCOHOL

I don't do drugs.  Or drink alcohol.  I know, I am a party animal.  But just because I don't doesn't mean I know nothing about them.

I think that drugs suck.  I think they can destroy families and lives.  I think that the people who get involved heavily in drugs are sad and confused souls.  I've seen some amazing people turn into, well, basically toothless zombies.  Poor toothless zombies at that because I know one thing, drugs aren't cheap.  I think that putting drugs before your own life is reckless and selfish.  And it breaks my heart with every story I hear, every old friend I see that has chosen that way of life.

Alcohol can have the same effect of people, this is true.  They are sort of in the same category.  I think that alcohol is an easy escape for problems, a way for shy people to come out of their shell, a social activity, a way to unwind.  I think it's abused more that we like to think.  I think its incredibly dangerous and can make someone feel like they "need" it to be themselves.  Yeah, a lot the same as drugs.

I think that people participating in either needs to be super careful.  There's a fine line between a "girls night out" and going out every night with the girls.  I think that they're not for me, but I mean, again, everybody's allowed to do what they want.  It's fun to hang out with friends and watch them get all crazy and let your guard down for a little while.  It's not okay to let something have control over you or make you sacrifice your home or family or life for it.

I think Mr. Mackey said it best when he said, “M’kay, kids, drugs are bad. You shouldn't do drugs. If you do them, you’re bad, because drugs are bad. It’s a bad thing to do drugs, so don’t be bad by doing drugs, m’kay?  That’d be bad

30 Days of Truth: Day 19

WHAT DO YOU THINK OF RELIGION?  OR WHAT DO YOU THINK OF POLITICS?  

This could be a bit of a loaded question, or questions as it is.  Seriously?  What do I think of religion or politics?  I think that they are both taboo topics when cutting hair, thats for sure.  Basically taboo topics around most folks, actually.

I think religion is fine.  I think it's great.  I think that if you can find one that works for you, then good for you!  Awesome!  Stick with it.  Do I think it's for everyone?  Oh heavens no.  And thats okay.  Some people are better suited for "organized religion" as the case may be, and some aren't.  And, again, that's what makes the world so amazing.

I know that some people think that it would be super awesome and amazing if everyone thought the same and believed the same things and all went to the same church. I think it might get incredibly boring and dull.  I mean a good ruffling of one's feathers is good now and then, don't you think?  It makes you think, makes you stand up for what you believe is right.  I'm not saying you should fight about religion, nothing could be further from the truth!  But to be able to have a conversation about why you believe what you believe because is good.  I think that if it's never challenged then someone could get complacent and even pompous.

I feel like I'm reiterating yesterday's post, so I'll stop.  They basically go hand in hand  though.  Love and respect your neighbor and what they believe, hopefully they'll do the same.  

And if they don't, well, love them anyway...it'll drive them crazy!

Friday Confessional: Weight Smaight

Hi guys.  Aren't you sick of me yet?!  I mean I've been here every day for weeks now!  Mad props to those of you sticking with me.  Maybe I should make some cookies or something.  Anyway, onto this week's confessional.

• I have fallen off the wagon.
• Again.
• I was doing so dang good on the diet,
• losing weight
• looking good better
• but I only have so much willpower I suppose.
• And, after all, I do have my reasons,
• and they are pretty good, I think.
• I mean for one, for awhile there I was eating only shakes and yogurt
• as a result of the wisdom teeth removal.
• So, perhaps, I lost a few lbs because I wasn't eating regularly
• and then when I resumed, I gained 'em right back.
• So technically, it's like they were always there.
• Yeah?
• I think I'm going with that.
• Plus, well, I'm basically eating crap.
• And by crap, I mean crap.
• Not poo
• Crap.
• So really, what do I expect?
• Bah it will all come out in the wash, I suppose.
• Speaking of eating like crap, Thanksgiving is coming up
• I'm excited.
• Big family event this year.
• I love it!
• We seriously are a troop.
• We have to have dinner at a church.
• I've got 8 aunts and uncles.
• And 48-ish cousins
• plus spouces
• and kids.
• It's a PARTY!!
• And I haven't seen a lot of them in a really long time!
• So yipee!
• I think Izacc and I are making some crafts tomorrow to bring.
• You know, some place cards, maybe a turkey cup or something.
• I don't know, the kid has been dying to do them all week.
• I've been putting him off
• not because I don't want to do it
• but because I'm afraid of the lifespan of such things in our house.
• Baby Ian is a bit of a terrorist
• albeit a cute terrorist
• a terrorist nonetheless.
• He likes to rip Izacc's preschool work 
• and pull the glued on parts off
• and basically torments him relentlessly.
• Baby Ian.
• Izacc's school is having a freaking sweet Thanksgiving Feast on Monday.
• I have to bring 10 lbs of diced potatoes.
• I looked at the menu.
• I don't think there was a thing on there that the boy will eat.
• And I think he's supposed to dress up like a pilgrim or Indian.
• I think he should be a turkey.
• I suggested it.
• He rolled his eyes and said, "Maw-hm! (two syllables)  Turkey don't wear clothes!"
• True dat, boy, they sure don't.
• Good point.
• The boy's four year old I tell you.
• It's really all downhill from here.
• Oh boy, I'm doomed.
• Where did I put those Doritos?!

So go read.  And play.  You won't regret it!  Promise!!

30 Days of Truth: Day 18

YOUR VIEWS ON GAY MARRIAGE

Yes, shall we go there on my tiny, insignificant blog?  Wow, hopefully I won't lose any readers/family/friends over this one.  But lets go there.

Gay marriage.  Who the crap am I to say anything about gay marriage?  Do people sit around and talk about not gay marriage as much as they talk about gay marriage?  I think not.   Okay so here are my thoughts.

I am for love.  I am for happiness.  I am not for hate.  I am not for fear.  I have been lucky enough to find love in this life and I snagged him right up.  We got hitched and never looked back.  Was everyone happy with my choice?  No.  Did it upset/disappoint some?  Yeah.  Did I make a mistake?  Heck no I didn't.  I know that from the bottom of my soul I made the right decision.

It was a tad unconventional for some.  It was perfectly normal for others.  Did anyone say to me, "Hey, actually, you and he cannot get married because you are not of the same religion.  Sorry"  Nope.  Because you can't say that.  You can try and persuade people one way or another, but the bottom line is that the person is free to make their own decisions.  Religion, race, background bears no weight on who you can or cannot marry.

Ah ha, but there's the problem, am I right?  Because gender seems to matter.  And, you know, it really shouldn't.  I think that if you are lucky enough, as I was, to find your love in this life you should have every right to get hitched as you please.  Love is love and people are just people.  We, as people, really have no right to judge one another. Period.

So where do we run into a problem?  Because as far as I can tell, no one on this earth has been chosen to be the judge of anyone.  Pretty sure that's all going to be taken care of later and by a much wiser and fair person, someone who knows all sides of the story.  All we can do is live our best lives while we're here.  And by that I mean let's just love one another, no?  And be happy.  And let others be happy because, really, why not?  Doesn't everyone have that basic right?

I offer this suggestion.  If you think marriage should be between a man and a woman, fine.  Believe that and stand by it.  But really own it and take responsibility for your own beliefs.  Believe for yourself, find out for yourself. Don't blindly follow just because it's what everyone else is doing! Don't just say you believe that because you've been told that's what's right.  There is nothing wrong with believeing one way or another.  But also know that what's good for you might not be what's good for your neighbor.  Or friend.  Don't you think it would be totally creepy and weird if we all held the exact same beliefs about everyhing and all had the same mindset?!  Ew.  It's a little too Stepford for me.  So let us have our differences.

BUT let's not infringe upon everyone else's beliefs in the process.  If you don't like what someone has to say, ignore it.  If you don't like what a church believes, then don't go to that church.  If you disagree with someone, then agree to disagree.  Every single person in this entire world is allowed to have their own belief system and that is another basic right.  NO ONE CAN TELL ME WHAT TO BELIEVE.  Just like no one can tell you what to believe.

If I make a statement that I hate pickles, I don't expect to see protesters outside my door demanding that I change my mind.  If I think that members of the LGBT community have every right to be married, I should be able to vote that way without receiving public persecution.

So what I'm getting at here, people, is that there is seriously way way WAY too much hatred in this world,  hatred and fear.  And to be perfectly honest, I think we've got way bigger problems on our hands and there's just no room for that crap.  We all need to be more loving and accepting.  Every person is different, and every person has the right to be different.  And that's what makes this entire experience so great.  And I hope to be able to raise my kids in a world where people have figured this out and are happy and loving and peaceful and accepting.  A world where they're allowed to stand up for what they believe is right without being protested or hated.  A world where they can say to one another, hey you know what?  That's not how I feel, but you're totally cool.  


I hope that I can teach them to be people who believe what they believe and know why they believe it.  And even if it's not popular or what every one else is doing, I hope I teach them that they are allowed to color outside the lines and be who they want to be.  And I hope the world is ready because let me tell you, these kids of mine are going to blow your minds.


So yeah.  I'm for love.  And I'm for peace.  And I'm for happiness and fairness and living and let living.


And I hope you are too.


Sorry if I sound like a hippy...maybe I am at heart...thanks mom!  :)

30 Days of Truth: Day 17

A BOOK YOU'VE READ THAT CHANGED YOUR VIEWS ON SOMETHING.

I really wish I had a great answer for this.  Let me tell you one thing about me: I sometimes suck at life.  I haven't read a book in over a year.  Actually, I think the last book I read was back in September of 08.   So yeah, it's a good thing I'm not being judged on my reading because I would be failing miserably.  I would love to read more.  I actually love reading.  It's that I'm kind of a book snob.  I'll start a book and if I'm not feeling it, I quit reading.  So I've started quite a few since then, I just haven't found one worth finishing.

The one I would say changed my views on something would probably be The Host by Stephenie Meyer.  Wanna know what it changed my view on?  Me ever reading a science fiction novel, that's what.  Who'd a thunk I would read (and love) a science fiction?!?  No seriously. I you know me you know that's just not my style.  And I cried when it was done.  No, I cried before it was done.  I was reading and crying and then it was over and I was all  "NOOOO!!  Now what am I going to read?!"

A science fiction book?!  Really?!  Yes.  In fact, I probably read and re-read the first few chapters five or six times before I got into it.  See?  Here's where the book snobbery comes into play.  I would read it and be all "What?!" and stop.  Then I's start again and not remember what was going on because I wasn't paying attention.  So I'd start again and understand and be all "WHAT?!?"  And on and on this went.

What was different about this book you ask?  Why did I keep picking it up and giving it another chance?  Because my sweet cousin Jeni is the one who recommended it to me and I trust her opinion a lot.  She's a book snob too, but on the opposite end of the spectrum.  She reads everything before she decides how she feels about it.  Her book collection is seriously to die for.  Aw, I love her.

So maybe that's the ticket.  Having a book approved for me by my dear friends and family.

Alright, so anybody know of any good books?  I really need a good read.

30 Days of Truth: Day 16

SOMEONE OR SOMETHING YOU DEFINITELY COULD LIVE WITHOUT


Wow.  I could give you a list 4 miles long on crap I could live without.
You know, like bills and poopy diapers and pickles.
Okay, maybe stuff a little less trivial
Like world hunger and homophobia and and hate.
Or are we looking for a someone I could live without here?
Like Michael Moore and Rachael Ray and Lindsay Lohan.
Alright I get it.  We want a real honest to goodness answer here.
So what, exactly, is going to top my list of things I could live without?
I'm going to have to say television people.
Cable television to be more specific.
I hate TV.  Hate hate hate!
We lived here for 3 years and were fine.  FINE.
We watched DVDs.
And rented or bought the TV seasons of the shows we liked.
And my kids had other things to do.
But, well, we decided
(and by WE I mean THOM)
to finally bite the bullet last month. We got cable.
And I've hated my life ever since.
It rules your life.
It tells you when to watch.
It gets you to watch shows you would have normally never watched just to get to your show.
It sucks you in with America's Next Top Model marathons.
It teaches you kid to want every toy he sees in every commercial.
Not only want it but be able to ask for it by it's entire name.
Like "the new Transformers Battle Ops Bumblebee."
Not kidding.
That was the entire name he told us.
Oh the things it teaches those dang kids!
And, not only that, but I actually feel guilty when we don't watch it.
It's like we went without for so long and got used to our other means.
But now that we have it and are actually paying for it, well, now we'd better be using it!
It's ridiculous.
I'm ridiculous.
Oh TV.  You're basically the devil.
And I love you.
And I love to hate you.
The end

PS Yeah, I am 100% aware that my husband works in the field of TV.
Yeah, I know this post is totally sacrilegious to him and his professional life.
Whatever, don't let him fool you.
He loves to hate TV too...
or not...
but either way, he can get his own blog!

30 Days of Truth: Day 15

SOMETHING OR SOMEONE YOU'VE TRIED TO LIVE WITHOUT, AND CAN'T.

Dude, I've been thinking all day about this one and I've seriously got nothing.  Nothin I say!
So maybe the best answer here is sugar.  I have given it up 4 or 5 times and I always come crawling back. In my defense, however, I always went crawling back when I got pregnant, sooo I am not fully to blame, right?  I mean right?!  You know, pregnant ladies and those cravings?!
Yeah, I know, total cop out.  But that's what I'm going with.  Sugar.
Oh and Diet Mountain Dew.  Why can't I quit you?!





Oh, and lest I forget, this guy.

30 Days of Truth: Day 14

A HERO THAT HAS LET YOU DOWN.

Oh Jessica.

We've gone through a lot together, you and I.

I can remember sitting in my college apartment being so jealous of you.

You were gorgeous.

You were engaged to this guy.

You guys even did a freakin song together!   And it was so cute and sweet and sappy!

You had a rockin hot body

And then you got married.  

And you even saved yourself for marriage!!  What?!?!  Who does that?!  I love it!!

 So I thought you were pretty much awesome.

And your voice was everything I wanted mine to be.

And then you guys did an show on MTV.

And it was so stupidly addicting!!  I loved it!!
You were so lame and funny and kinda stupid.
And you had this cutesy little yummy line of cuteness.

You were the one who convinced me to go on South Beach Diet the first time.  Because hey, if you went on it and looked like this, so could I right?!

Yeah, not so much.
I lost a bunch so thanks for that.  But then I had a baby. So meh.

But then, what the what?!

What are you doing, lady?!

And geting rid of this fella?!

And what in the crap was this about?!

Oh sweet Jessica.

How you make me sad.
You are basically dead to me I'm afraid.

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30 Days of Truth: Day 13

A BAND OR ARTIST THAT HAS GOTTEN YOU THROUGH SOME TOUGH ASS DAYS.

Oh baby.  As many of you know, music is my life.  This post could go on for days and days.
Alright.   Here we go.
In jr. high, well, you know how that all goes, right?  Basically the most awkward and odoriferous time of childhood?  You don't know who you are, you don't know who you can trust, you don't know what the CRAP is going on with your body.  It's not so fun, wouldn't want to do it again.
So, you know, while a lot of kids my age were listening to heavy metal and smoking,wanna know what I was doing?
Yeah.  I was in my basement bedroom acting out "Phantom of the Opera"...by myself...



Yeah, I was all sorts of awesome.

Lets not dwell.

But, I was MAD into show tunes.  For quite a few years, actually.  It seriously got me through a lot of hard times to just disappear into the music.

And then I discovered Dave Matthews Band.



And my life was complete.
Not kidding.
Their music got me through a lot, including my sweet Momma having breast cancer.




Their music has always spoken to me, both lyrically and melodically.
I can remember all the concerts I went to, all the new albums I bought.
They had a lot to do with my growing up.
And I think I turned out pretty kick a**.



Oh and lest you think I'm a mellow hippy-loving pot-smokin jam band listening girl, oh I'm not.
There was a very hard time I went through a few years back.  Not good, not happy.  The thing that helped me get through it and get over it was this band, and this song, more specifically.




And there are so many others and times I could tell you about. Maybe someday.  But for now, listen and enjoy.

And don't judge me!
I am a totally fabulous conglomeration of awesomeness.